It’s funny how we throw the word “love” around so easily, but real love is not just said, it’s shown.
So if you’re wondering whether a man truly loves you, don’t just listen to his sweet words.
Watch what he shows you, and a man who loves you will show you these five things:
How Do You Know A Man Loves You? He Shows You These 5 Things
1. He Shows You His True Self
Everyone wears a mask.
No one truly shows who they are, especially in public.
We all put on a certain persona depending on who we’re with
We’re professional at work, polite with strangers, try to be the “good child” around our parents, and the fun friend in social settings.
That’s why you can have a friend who’s the life of the party yet secretly battles anxieties or depression.
You can have a friend who is a church girl yet is secretly having an affair with a married man.
We really don’t know people as much as we think we do.
That’s why when a man shows you his authentic self, he’s truly in love with you.
You know those vulnerable parts he hides from everyone else.
Oh, that reminds me of a series I watched on Prime Video some days ago with my husband titled “56 Days’’
An avoidant guy fell in love with a charming young woman and told her of his darkest secret/past.
He was so in love that he couldn’t hide that ugly part of him, and guess what?
The lady stayed with him, even though he was responsible for her brother’s death.
What a twist, I know.
The point here is that a man who is helplessly in love with you will get tired of putting up a facade and show you his real self because love has a way of lowering our defenses.
2. He Shows You the Future
A lot of women can relate to dating a man for months and years without knowing the future of the relationship.
And when they ask the men, they give all manner of excuses.
“Marriage is not in the picture right now.”
“I want to put my finances in order first.”
“I’m not ready for that level of commitment.”
“I’m focusing on my career right now.”
But this same man meets a new lady, and in less than six months, they’re married.
So what changed?
His finances, his career, his readiness?
No. He just didn’t see a future with you.
A man who is in love with you doesn’t keep you guessing about where the relationship is going.
He talks about the future like you’re already in it.
It’s “When we get married…” not “If I ever get married…”
“Our kids will…” not “I don’t know if I want kids…”
When a man truly loves you, he sees you in his future. And he wants you to know it.
But if he’s been with you for years and still can’t tell you where this is going? He’s just not that into you.
3. He Shows You Respect
You can’t be in love with someone you don’t respect.
And you definitely can’t claim to love someone while constantly disrespecting them.
Yet so many women are in relationships with men who say “I love you” but treat them with zero respect.
He calls you degrading names, dismisses your feelings and opinions, hits you, and even cheats on you, but because he’s the king of grand gestures, you think he loves you.
Come here, sis.
Receive your deliverance!
Amen.
I think many of us confuse a generous man with a good man.
A man can buy you gifts, take you on expensive trips, spend money on you, but if he doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t love you.
He’s just paying for access or keeping you distracted from how badly he’s treating you.
Real love shows respect in the everyday moments, not just the Instagram-worthy moments that’ll make your followers swoon with envy.
4. He Shows You Off
I’m trying to think of a good reason a man would hide your relationship???
Hmmmmm…Well, I can’t come up with any right now, but I know there’s a difference between privacy and secrecy.
Privacy is “I don’t need to post every detail of our relationship online.”
Secrecy is “Nobody knows you exist.”
And if a man is truly in love with you, he can do the former, but not the latter.
Yep, I stand on that. A guy who truly loves you will not keep you a secret.
Any guy who does that is either keeping his options open or protecting someone’s feelings, definitely not yours.
5. He Shows Growth
If you’re looking for perfection in a partner, stay single, sis.
Because you will not find it.
There is no warehouse somewhere manufacturing flawless human beings.
We are all a little damaged in some corner, but I can tell you what you can look for: Growth.
When a man truly loves you, he wants to do better, and it’s not because you’re nagging him or threatening to leave.
Love has influence, and influence is powerful and subtle.
It’s what makes a man say, “I don’t want to lose her. I can do better.”
That’s love, sis.
It makes you check yourself and reflect.
So yes, he may not get it right immediately, but you will see effort, and effort is evidence of care.
As you can see, there’s more to love than butterflies. It’s evidence.
It’s how a man treats you, how he speaks to you, plans with you, and grows for and with you.
If you have to constantly convince yourself he loves you, he probably doesn’t.
Because when a man truly loves you, you won’t have to decode it.
You’ll see it.