We usually assume the hardest affair to end is the one with the hottest sex. You know, the kind with intense chemistry that makes two grown adults forget that actions have consequences. I don’t think passion alone makes an affair difficult to leave. Passion can burn hot today and become cold ash tomorrow. Let’s look … Read more
When people talk about what a man can lose by cheating, the obvious answer is usually: His wife. And yes, you can lose your wife. She may file for divorce and decide that cheating is one thing she cannot forgive. What if she forgives you? What if you both decide to work on the marriage … Read more
”Every cheater eventually gets caught.” Huh. I wish that were true. Some people cheat for years without leaving any clear evidence behind. You may feel that something is wrong, but you cannot prove it. And when you ask questions, they make you feel like you are imagining things because you have nothing solid to show. … Read more
Some affairs shock you; others make you ask, “But how did you even allow yourself to go there?” Cheating with your wife’s best friend belongs in the second category. Because out of everybody in this big, beautiful world, you chose the woman who knows your wife’s deepest secrets, has eaten in your home, celebrated your … Read more
We always think of the big marriage destroyers, like cheating, abuse, and addiction, as things that can blow up a marriage overnight. Well, sometimes, a marriage doesn’t blow up. It wears out. It’s death by a thousand tiny cuts. Look, sometimes the biggest threat to your marriage isn’t another woman, another man, or your in-laws, … Read more
You think the woman a man is most afraid to lose is the most beautiful woman he has ever dated. Duh! Beauty helps, of course. But beauty alone cannot make someone cherish you. A man can admire your face and still take your presence for granted. What makes a woman unforgettable is often how his … Read more
One of the strangest things about infidelity is how a man can suddenly become an excellent communicator with the wrong woman. At home, his wife asks, “What’s wrong?” “Nothing.” “Are you okay?” “I’m fine.” Case closed. But give this same man a mistress, and suddenly, he realizes he can be emotionally vulnerable. He’s talking about … Read more
If you are a child of God who has a relationship with Him, and not only that, you acknowledge Him in all your ways, you should know that God cares about you and won’t let you enter into a ditch romantically. The problem is just that when we are in love, we tend to ignore … Read more
When you see a man crying, society is likely to label him weak. But no, a weak man is not one who cries. A weak man is not one who is gentle, soft-spoken, emotional, affectionate, or expressive. In fact, I think many of us have misunderstood strength in men for too long. We call a … Read more
Nothing happens randomly. Even a man who cheated because an opportunity presented itself still made a choice when that opportunity arrived. The opportunity didn’t cheat. He did. And before he did, something changed. Something that, looking back, was always visible to the woman paying attention. So, before a man cheats, some things always happen. 6 … Read more