We live in an oversharing era where people post their entire lives on social media and treat strangers like therapists.
Vulnerability is strength, and sharing is caring, I know.
But privacy is power!
Some things are meant to stay between you and God, you and your journal, you and your therapist, you and absolutely nobody else.
Because the more you share, the more ammunition you give people to use against you, and the more opinions you invite.
Here are seven things every woman should keep private.
6 Things Every Woman Should Keep Private About Her Life
1. Your next move
I know you are excited about your next move, but stop announcing your plans before they happen.
Stop telling people what you’re going to do before you do it.
People are weird about other people’s ambitions.
Even people who claim to love you will sometimes subconsciously (or consciously) try to sabotage you.
They’ll plant seeds of doubt.
“Are you sure that’s a good idea?”
“That sounds risky.”
They’ll bring up every reason it might fail, every obstacle you’ll face, and every person who tried and didn’t make it.
And it’s not always malicious.
Sometimes people are just projecting their own fears onto you.
But their energy affects yours whether they mean it to or not.
Also, moving in silence is powerful.
When you’re not talking about what you’re going to do, and you’re really doing it, your energy goes into execution, not explanation.
You’re not wasting time defending your vision to people who can’t see it.
Move in silence and let your success make the noise.
2. Your relationship problems
I know you’re mad at him right now.
You’re frustrated and hurt, and you need to vent.
But please, stop telling everyone, including family and friends, your business.
And of course, not social media.
Because you vent, you feel better, and eventually you forgive him and move on, but people don’t.
They remember, and now they hate him, and questioning why you’re still with him.
And now you can’t untell those stories.
You painted him as the villain, and now that’s how they see him, even after you’ve worked through your issues.
Your relationship problems should stay between you and him, and maybe a therapist if you need professional help.
But your girls and your family don’t need to know.
Instagram definitely doesn’t need to know.
Because once you let people into your relationship like that, they feel entitled to opinions about it and start giving unsolicited advice.
3. Your income and financial situation
How much money you make is nobody’s business, yet women love to discuss finances with people who have no business knowing.
Stop telling people how much you make and showing off every purchase.
Money makes people weird, even people you trust.
Before you know it, they’re asking to borrow money and expecting you to pay for things.
Making slick comments about how you must be doing well and treating you differently because they know you have money.
Or even treating you differently because they know you don’t.
Your financial situation, good or bad, should be private.
If you’re doing well, people don’t need to know, so they can be jealous or start treating you like an ATM.
If you’re struggling, people don’t need to know so they can pity you or look down on you.
Keep your money matters between you and your bank account, and people who want to help you grow wealth.
4. Your good deeds and acts of service
I’m sure you seea lot of ”random kindness’ videos on social media these days.
It’s a niche on its own, and some people are cashing out big time from the millions of views.
I must confess it feels so good watching these videos, but I question the motive of such content creators.
Because when you broadcast your good deeds, it stops being about helping and starts being about being seen helping.
And you’re also putting the person you helped on blast, exposing their struggle for your own validation.
If you’re donating, volunteering, or supporting someone in need, it’s beautiful, but it doesn’t need to be posted.
The only reward you need is knowing you made a difference, and of course, God blesses private kindness.
5. Your family drama and dysfunction
Every family has issues, but that doesn’t mean the world needs to know about them.
So, stop discussing your family’s private struggles with people who have no business knowing.
Because that’s your family, even when they’re a mess, they deserve your discretion.
You can protect yourself without exposing them and distance yourself without dragging them publicly.
Handle family issues within the family or with a therapist, but not with your 500 Instagram followers who now think your family is crazy.
6. Your sex life
I cannot stress this enough.
What happens in your bedroom stays in your bedroom, so stop telling your friends the intimate details of your sex life.
Stop rating, reviewing, and discussing sex like it’s a Yelp review.
Your intimate life is sacred.
It’s supposed to be between you and your partner.
When you share those details, you’re violating your partner’s privacy, even if they never find out.
You’re taking something that’s supposed to be private between two people and making it public entertainment.
And it changes things because now your friends have mental images they shouldn’t have.
If your relationship ends, they know everything, and people talk.
Those details can and will come back to haunt you or both of you.
Nobody needs to know what y’all do behind closed doors.
Privacy protects your peace.
It doesn’t make you fake, secretive, or closed off.
Not everyone deserves access to every part of you.
Some things are meant to be protected from outside opinions and energies.
Because the more you share, the more you have to defend and explain.
The more you open yourself up to judgment and jealousy, and you don’t owe people that access.